question for the guys: online dating?
February 14, 2012 
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Question by beautifullyboring: question for the guys: on-line dating?
i’ve gone 1 two dates with a guy i met on a dating site. both dates were wonderful…chemistry was there. though we weren’t necessarily affectionate for the duration of the dates, each ended with hot & heavy goodnight kisses.
this might sound crazy, but it makes me sad when i “check up” on him and notice that he’s still pretty active on the dating web site, logging in at least each 24-48 hours. i know it is only been 2 dates (over two weeks), but I really like the guy. i haven’t deleted my profile, but i’m less interested and do not log on as usually as I utilised to. this is most likely poor, “placing all my eggs in one basket”, but i guess i am a a single man sort of girl.
guys, do you think it is a poor sign that he’s nonetheless active on the internet site? i understand every person is different, but following two dates, if you genuinely liked the girl, would you nonetheless be pursuing other men and women? thanks.
no, we do not e-mail through the website any longer. we use our normal emails. he wouldn’t be seeking at my messages.
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Answer by finest_mami07
just tell him how u really feel…. see if he feels the very same way
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Maybe he’s logging to the site every 24-48 hrs to see your messages?
It sounds like this guy is using this service to hook up with chicks he is on there allot scouting for the next girl.
talk to him…some sites offer blogs and forums that he could be viewing or responding to.
No. Until you are bf/gf, neither of you are doing anything wrong by checking in at the site. But if it bothers you so much, maybe you should share your concern with him. But try not to get so emotionally invested in this if you try to talk with him about it.
Absolutely a bad sign in my opinion. Sounds like they just wanted something else, not friendship and love. If they were serious about you, they wouldn’t go about checking out others. but you dating two guys is a bit the same from my veiwpoint. Maybe you dating both of them( if they know) may cause them to thing the same of you.
Hope that helps.
in the online world of dating, he has many girls that he goes on dates with. hes not going to delete his account anytime soon
I wouldn’t, but two dates is still pretty early for most people. Sometimes they want to ride the roller coaster (if you will) with three or four different people before they date exclusively. Try going on two or three more dates with him. He should settle down. If not, he’s not interested and you should move on. After all, to him, you may just be a “notch in the belt”.
Sorry to break this to you, but I hope I helped.
Some people like the “date” more than one person at a time. Others prefer to be with one person until that runs its course. Unless you have made some kind of commitment to be exclusive, there is nothing wrong with “playing the field”.
But if it’s bothering you that he’s logging on regularly, you should realize he may just be responding to messages he’s received or sending messages back and forth with other’s he met before you. It doesn’t necessarily mean he’s actively pursuing new contacts.
Yeah, I probably would. Two dates is two dates. It really doesn’t mean much of anything at this stage.
Does he really know you?
Do you really know him?
Have you talked about getting more serious than just a goodnight kiss?
Have you talked about dating exclusively?
Until that last question comes up and until you two agree on it, all bets are off as far as what he does. And in order for you to know what he’s doing on the dating website, you need to be logging in (or at least visiting) yourself. So you’re in the same boat that he is.
yeah,but you kind of answered your own question.maybe he doesn’t want to put all his “eggs in one basket”.maybe he feels there is chemistry between you two,but maybe he doesnt know if it will work out.you cant expect after two dates,that he’s gonna be falling hard for you,and if he’s still checking on his profile,maybe hes just trying to date around,or just leave his options open if it didnt work out with you.every guy is different,so keep that in mind.maybe he doesn’t want to be a “one woman kind of man”.
Well just because you have a successful date doesn’t mean you throw it all away and focus on just one. Sometimes you don’t get called back. You gotta keep your options open. Now if you two were to make a commitment, then he should cease operations. Btw I met my wife through myspace and we have a WONDERFUL relationship and a beautiful daughter. Good luck.
if i joined a dating website i wouldnt loose interest in the dating website just because ive been on 2 dates with a guy. i’d probably go on a date with a few until i found someone i really liked and who liked me back. maybe this guy has other dates and has liked you all and is deciding what to do or maybe he doesnt want a relationship and only joined for the nookie
I understand your dilemma. One thing to consider is that on-line dating is vastly different depending on whether you are a man or a woman. Women get a ton of offers on-line. Men get not so many. If you believe he is honest and genuine then it is good to hear that you found a good one. Perhaps he is signing-on to see if you have signed-on and to see if your profile is still active. Maybe he is wondering the same things you are wondering — “Gee, we had 2 great dates but her profile is still visible.” I think 2 dates is too soon to be exclusive but just because he is still checking out the dating website does not mean he is actively dating others. Give it time and trust your instincts.
It is way too easy to become a player on dating sites, chasing new acquaintances/dates becomes addictive. I finally quit it all because I was going in a direction I did not like.
Come out and ask him if he wants to pursue a relationship with you. If he is not ready to do that, then move on.